I presented in front of the class for the first time last night. My task was to report the changes that my team had come up with regarding a case study given by our professor. I thoroughly enjoyed working with my classmates. The time seemed to fly by as I listened and kept notes on all the suggestions that we discussed. It was a truly great experience to suggest, defend, and assimilate information from different people. I put a lot of effort into listening what we all discussed and synthesizing it into a coherent summary. The next great thing was listening to my other classmates present. Many of us had similar ideas, but every now and then, I felt a ‘wow’ feeling when someone would put an idea forward that our group hadn’t considered. In a more broad sense, it helped remind me of the potential of everyone. In my current position, I deal with individuals who are sometimes overlooked or discounted because they work in industrial level jobs. Today, one person came up to me and almost immediately we were on the subject of the passing of her husband in July. She just wanted someone to talk to about what she was going through. The conversation floated into different things, but at the end of the conversation I expressed my gratitude for telling me her story and I wished her a good day. Listening is not only a powerful tool for business, but also a simple way that we can help to strengthen each other.
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One of the hardest things about this program is that it is a true immersion into the business world. This week, I have been a part of at least 5 different teams with my classmates. On the one hand, it is great to work with different people on tasks (as we would in a real world setting). On the other hand, it can be difficult to remember which team is doing what! Thank goodness for e-mails to help to keep things organized.
I also realize that my energy drops towards the end of the week. My persistent ability to stay positive starts to fluctuate as I approach the last class of the week. The conversation was interesting to listen to, but I felt like I didn’t have a lot to contribute. Initially, I was quite disappointed with my lack of familiarity with the subjects being discussed. “Are you gonna do something or just stand there and bleed” (Tombstone, 1993) reminded me that I am at OSU to learn. Even if I can’t participate in the immediate conversation, doesn’t mean that I can’t be better prepared for the next conversation. This incident also triggered a desire to rethink my current schedule and tweak it a little bit to accommodate for this increased tiredness at the end of the week. I am excited about the prospect of being better, even if I have to recover from a bloody nose.
The same evening that I had this “tough” class, I also spoke to my daughter on the phone during break. She said, “I want Daddy home.” It broke my heart. I know that I am doing all of this to make our lives better, but how do you explain the complexities of the arrangement to a three year old? I was so shocked by her statement, that all I managed to say was “I love you so much and I look forward to seeing you.”
The week ended with me thoroughly enjoying time with my family at the Columbus Zoo. Both my little girl and my boy were literally all over me. She didn’t want to walk and insisted that I carry her the whole time. My boy oscillated between wanting to be held by me and my wife. To end on a more humorous note, my three year old girl now weighs 28 lbs (pretty tiny) and my 11 month old boy weighs 30 lbs!
My week ended with the prospect of preparing for my first grad school exam, a presentation, and economics homework. I got home after work and was looking forward to seeing my family. My daughter and son greeted me at the door. I stepped over the baby gate and my little boy started crying because he wanted me to pick him up. I set my things down and picked him up only to hear my little girl asking for me to pick her up. My wife came over and got my boy, while I picked up my little girl to hug. We hugged and she kept saying “Found him, I found you Daddy.” My wife told me that throughout the week, she had kept saying “Lost Daddy, Lost Daddy.” It was her way of saying that she missed me. I was torn between feeling sad that I couldn’t be more available and the joy of just embracing my children. Along with all this, I think about my wife and her unbelievable support and I have immense gratitude for being an amazing mother. I would not be able to do this program without my family.
Since I’ve been in Columbus for almost five weeks I feel like I’m settling into Fisher and what it means to be a graduate student as well as an Ohio State Buckeye. First, grad school is NOT undergrad. They told us this during orientation but I don’t think it really hit home until the first two weeks of classes came and gone, very quickly. We are held accountable to reading because students need to be a value-added body in the classroom that’s prepared to contribute. Grad school means not sitting in a classroom for an hour and fifteen minutes listening to a lecture twice a week, then taking tests to earn your grade. However, both components I love and each lecture you hear another perspective that you may not have originally thought of. You get to know your classmates, professors, and most importantly, yourself, better. Professors and faculty alike also told us at orientation that in grad school we need to possess a certain level of “intellectual curiosity” because of the opportunities ahead and I feel like I am so fortunate to be welcomed into Fisher’s pool of resources. I finished undergrad in May at the University of Georgia and I can honestly say this a whole different ball of wax because of the standard and caliber. Second, being a student at THE Ohio State University means when someone says, “O-H,” you say, “I-O” (still working on my reflexes with this one). I love when I fly home to Atlanta I’m almost always able to find one Fisher alumnus on the plane ride back to Columbus, and we have an instant and special comradery about campus and football season. Being a Buckeye means Saturdays are now committed to cheering on the Bucks on and off the field. I LOVE football season, so this was a major component when I considered where I wanted to further my education. Could it get any better than winning a National Championship the season before? Not in my eyes. Needless to say, I love Fisher grad life and the Buckeyes!
I spent most of Saturday working on projects for school and doing a little bit of reading. The project aspect went fine. However, when I got to the reading portion, I started to get nervous again. A thought occurred to me though. More correctly, I thought about my way of thinking. Up to this point, my readings have been utilizing a limited perspective on absorbing the information. After the class on Thursday, I realized that memorization is not the way to go. I had the idea of supplementing the information in the text with real world examples. My idea for this week is to go into class with a couple questions and a little background research into the contemporary examples of the topics. Already, I feel more competent and confident that this strategy will work. At the very least, I will be better off than I was last week.
What a great experience! Only two weeks into our program and we are already talking with recruiters from companies. The career fair started at 3 pm, but I wasn’t able to get there until about halfway into the event, due to work. I definitely maximized the time I was there, but left the event hungering for more! I was torn away only by the desire to see my children and to give my wife some relief from watching them all day. Despite not being able to stay longer, I was still able to have some nice conversations with employers. Ironically, I felt that the conversations seemed to flow a little easier with some of the employers because of the difficult class experience from last week. I felt an overwhelming sense of gratitude to my teacher after this event. It may be commonsense to most people, but keeping up to date with the current events (especially in the business sense) really helped to ease the awkward moments in initial conversations and allowed me to contribute more to what the employers were saying. In other words, it made it feel more like a conversation than an interview. This format made me feel more comfortable. One of the other unanticipated benefits of this experience was the interaction with my classmates. Even in this more “competitive” setting, I felt nothing but complete support and friendliness from my classmates. That was a wonderful feeling in itself. I feel so privileged to be a part of the experience and am so grateful to be surrounded by such support.
I met with Jill Westerfeld to explore some questions regarding internships, career development strategies and baseline assessments. It was great to talk to somebody with such deep experience in the field and so willing to help. It began with a very brief overview of my background, where I am currently working, and my goals. Through the discussion we were able to identify some methods I can utilize in order to help focus my career search. One of the things that helped the most during the session was that I came ready to talk about points that were bothering me and keeping open to opportunities.
Work started off rough this morning. There were a lot of things to deal with this morning and it was incredibly frustrating. I immediately thought about my children and what behavior I would demonstrate in front of them to handle the situation if they were watching me. First step was to listen and absorb. The next step was to respond. I went back to the office and typed up an e-mail to my superiors stating the issues and the steps to address it. I then followed through. To my surprise, I got no response back from anyone. I was very grateful, because it was my superior’s way of saying. Good job, I have no feedback for you! The end of the day brought resolution to the issues of the morning and actually a positive spin on things.
I got lined up with my third team (one for each class I am in). We debated how to divide up the responsibilities and some peripheral chats about scheduling. It’s a great opportunity to learn how to work as a group and also a great opportunity to quickly adjust to different people and their perspectives. I have really taken it to heart that other people have great insights into issues. The lectures definitely have a “higher level” feel to them. Most of these classes we actually are discussing points together. There of course is always the nice feeling we get when we make the big point, but there is now something deeper. Listening to others and absorbing their thoughts into yours. The focus for me is beginning to shift from the “I have a great idea” philosophy into the idea “what can I say that will help everyone think about this in a new way.”
In the three plus years of being a father, tonight was the first night that I did not get to kiss my kids goodnight. On the one hand I am deeply saddened. On the other hand, I am doing my job as a father by working hard to make our lives better. This kind of situation is awful, but I know that when I hold them next, I get to savor that moment a little bit more than usual.
My full time schedule means that I will most likely be spending my weekends reading. Today, I spent most of my day getting through the majority of the assigned readings for the upcoming week. Thank goodness for the ability of my children to interrupt me and provide me with an excuse to take a break from education! I believe that the reading went a little slow today, mainly because it is an immersion into a new culture that I am not accustomed to. Some of the terminology was unfamiliar and my laptop was crucial for looking up the definitions of the words I don’t know. There was a gulp of anxiety about halfway through a 150 page reading assignment. Again, my little girl woke me from this stupor and asked “Daddy, play you with me?” I followed the order and we played with Rainbow Dash, Shutterfly, and Rarity pony.
Despite how little I get to see my family, how busy work is, how much schoolwork there is to do, I am reminded of how fortunate I am to have these burdens. I am grateful for the opportunity to develop my abilities and improve the lifestyle for my family.
The day started, as usual, around 4:40 am in the morning. I played a kung fu form, watched a little bit of the news as I grabbed a quick bite to eat. I had prepared my lunch and dinner to be ready to go. By 5:10 am I was on my way to work with my mug full of coffee. I read over the articles that we were going to discuss in class before I prepared to do a check in for work. The client that I manage has appreciated the time that I have spent on site at their company and increased their order from our company. My boss was pretty happy, but I confess it was a little overwhelming, because it also means my responsibilities were growing. Just in time for the beginning of classes! The day quickly flew by staying consistently busy and my break around 2 pm was a welcome relief. I sat at my desk eating my lunch and my thoughts drifted to how my kids and wife were. I knew it was nap time, so I didn’t want to wake them up. The rest of the day flew by and I barely had time to finish my work.
I traveled to OSU and as I was parking the car, I got a call from our client and we had an informal chat about the ongoing partnership. I met up with some friends from class and had a nice time listening to their perspectives on careers and more background. The professor for the class tonight had a much different style and seemed to be able to engage everyone in the room without much effort.
The professor ended class early so that we could go to a networking event with Marathon Oil company. I spoke to some folks from the MHRM council and learned a couple of things about the case competition that we will be participating in. The next group that I floated to included Jill Westerfeld (career development) and an HR representative from Marathon. I asked questions about his experiences and enjoyed hearing not only about his experiences, but the fact I was asking the questions in front of Jill. I have a meeting planned with her next week, so it will be interesting to hear her impressions about the type of questions I asked and the manner with which I asked them. I spent about an hour at the event and said goodbye to a couple of classmates as I left.
I drove home, hoping that I would get the chance to see my kids before they went to sleep. Luckily, I got to hug my little girl. My little boy was a little tired, but I got to see him too. I finished off the night typing up this blog and then preparing for tomorrow.