Before you freak out – the baby is NOT mine! Thank goodness. I am speaking of my friend Mark, my best friend in the WPMBA program who I met at orientation and befriended on day one of class. He and his wife, Lucia, are expecting a baby any day now – in fact, by the time this is posted, they will already be a few days past their due date – and could be parents!
Mark and Lucia were planning on starting the WPMBA program together this past summer; in fact, Lucia was accepted before Mark! But, a few weeks before school started, Lucia got the exciting news that she was pregnant, and decided that work + school + baby = impossible – a choice that many women make. Mark, however, would continue on with his plan to start the program. I find that this is a pretty common decision – there are plenty of fathers of young children in the program, but very few mothers. Chalk it up to whatever you’d like – a women’s maternal instinct to “be there” during the first precious years of childhood, the sheer exhaustion of childbirth, “typical” male/female role, inequality in the workplace…the list goes on.
But the purpose of this post is not to debate these issues. Rather, I simply wanted to dedicate a post to Mark while he’s still childless – and while his life is still (mostly) about him. Word on the stree is, having a baby turns your world upside down. I’m sure there will be nights that Mark nods off through class, or doesn’t make it at all. Tests for which he will barely study. Group projects that he will barely contribute to (OK, I’m getting a little harsh). But for all the difficulties, he will be experiencing one of life’s greatest joys – to be a parent. I haven’t known Mark long, but in the two-plus quarters I have known him, I can say that he will make a darn good father. As far as the WPMBA + Baby = *$(*&#@ equation goes – for that, we’ll have to wait and see!
Congratulations, Mark and Lucia!